Badi Amma has replaced the name of our grandmothers especially in the families
that pretend to be affluent ones and switched over to Hindi language in
UP-Kashmiri mixed dialect. In the valley they were known as kakeni-Jiger or
Kakenie or Benidedh or Babi and a little earlier as Dedh. Three of my aunts
were Benidedh, Heidedh and Divdedh.
Generally the more they advance in age, the more they lose authority and respect. Mother of one has no option while the mother of many generally gets divided amongst her many. Mother of many has no home. She is cautious, lest the other gets offended. She prefers to avoid the word ‘Gharea’ especially in exile. She names her dwelling as ‘Roshan Laluen or Chuni Laluen’ by the name of her sons. If settled in any cosmopolitan city likeDelhi India
One such Badi Amma is almost confined to her room lest the obnoxious treatment she meets becomes public. Early sixties the Budi Amma finally succeeded in persuading her husband to close his business and join her only son somewhere away inPunjab . While in the valley, she had
plenty for the smallest unit to live a luxurious life. She would often mock at
her cousins who used to mix enough water to yogurt worth two annas to suffice
a family of nine. Sarcastically she used to say: “Ye ne banus larie su Katie
larie panus”.
In her nineties, Badi Amma is mentally and physically fine and fit. She walks about two to three km everyday to and fro to the nearby temple. Devotees around touch her feet to get blessed. Know not why their respect for the Badi Amma should offend her daughter-in-law who too is grandmother of a score of grandchildren from her daughters and sons. 2009, her son and his wife resumed their talk with her after six moths lest they get exposed in presence of one of their relations. Her revelation was mistakenly taken as brain delirium due to her advanced age, but soon her son and his wife removed the misconception when they justified their act as their reaction to the allegation that she was hurling curses on their son with the action of crossing her palms, known as ‘lelivetear’.
Badi Amma habitually used to have her meals in her room. One evening her only son notified an order: “Badi Amma is directed to have her meals in the dinning-hall.” Others in the family suggested that Badi Amma would not honour the notification. She might defy the dictation. The administrator said that she could not resist her hunger. Ultimately, hunger would make her to yield. To break his mother the Hitler rightly presumed as to how long Badi Amma would resist her hunger. He was right; Badi Amma could not resist her hunger for long. She in utter humility came out of her shell and obeyed the directions of the dictator, who in his childhood had enjoyed all the privileges, the only son in a well-to-do family is expected to.
Once her granddaughter-in-law asked her mother-in-law to call Badi Amma to share sweet dish. In response she said: “Our munching of sweets is more than a call to her. She will come soon”. And the mother-in-law was right.
One evening Badi Amma was not called to join the family dinner. She waited and finally gave in and went to the kitchen. She was shocked to see that everybody had gone to their respective bedrooms and her share of chapattis was packed in a casserole. Despite acute hunger,she abandoned her dinner, spent sleepless night empty stomach. Next morning she woke up from a wet pillow.
Badi Amma is not a solitary stigma of abandons in our ideal society a civilization of 5000 years. There are many Papa ji; Dadhoo, Buday Papa and Lalea who meet the same treatment as that of Badi Amma. One abandoned father of three well to do sons asked me for the reason of his agony when he owns a house, has pretty enough to spend with a recurring hansom pension after his retirement. I preferred to avoid response rather than to reply haywire though I knew the reason was nothing short ofNewton
Beware! The social activist is watching the society. His heavy hammer does not believe in sycophancy and ostrich character.
Bríjû dàss chhú vanàn låsív tû båsív.
Generally the more they advance in age, the more they lose authority and respect. Mother of one has no option while the mother of many generally gets divided amongst her many. Mother of many has no home. She is cautious, lest the other gets offended. She prefers to avoid the word ‘Gharea’ especially in exile. She names her dwelling as ‘Roshan Laluen or Chuni Laluen’ by the name of her sons. If settled in any cosmopolitan city like
One such Badi Amma is almost confined to her room lest the obnoxious treatment she meets becomes public. Early sixties the Budi Amma finally succeeded in persuading her husband to close his business and join her only son somewhere away in
In her nineties, Badi Amma is mentally and physically fine and fit. She walks about two to three km everyday to and fro to the nearby temple. Devotees around touch her feet to get blessed. Know not why their respect for the Badi Amma should offend her daughter-in-law who too is grandmother of a score of grandchildren from her daughters and sons. 2009, her son and his wife resumed their talk with her after six moths lest they get exposed in presence of one of their relations. Her revelation was mistakenly taken as brain delirium due to her advanced age, but soon her son and his wife removed the misconception when they justified their act as their reaction to the allegation that she was hurling curses on their son with the action of crossing her palms, known as ‘lelivetear’.
Badi Amma habitually used to have her meals in her room. One evening her only son notified an order: “Badi Amma is directed to have her meals in the dinning-hall.” Others in the family suggested that Badi Amma would not honour the notification. She might defy the dictation. The administrator said that she could not resist her hunger. Ultimately, hunger would make her to yield. To break his mother the Hitler rightly presumed as to how long Badi Amma would resist her hunger. He was right; Badi Amma could not resist her hunger for long. She in utter humility came out of her shell and obeyed the directions of the dictator, who in his childhood had enjoyed all the privileges, the only son in a well-to-do family is expected to.
Once her granddaughter-in-law asked her mother-in-law to call Badi Amma to share sweet dish. In response she said: “Our munching of sweets is more than a call to her. She will come soon”. And the mother-in-law was right.
One evening Badi Amma was not called to join the family dinner. She waited and finally gave in and went to the kitchen. She was shocked to see that everybody had gone to their respective bedrooms and her share of chapattis was packed in a casserole. Despite acute hunger,she abandoned her dinner, spent sleepless night empty stomach. Next morning she woke up from a wet pillow.
Badi Amma is not a solitary stigma of abandons in our ideal society a civilization of 5000 years. There are many Papa ji; Dadhoo, Buday Papa and Lalea who meet the same treatment as that of Badi Amma. One abandoned father of three well to do sons asked me for the reason of his agony when he owns a house, has pretty enough to spend with a recurring hansom pension after his retirement. I preferred to avoid response rather than to reply haywire though I knew the reason was nothing short of
Beware! The social activist is watching the society. His heavy hammer does not believe in sycophancy and ostrich character.
Bríjû dàss chhú vanàn låsív tû båsív.
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